1-10-2019
You can fix an unhappy marriage!
The first step for that is to be happy with yourself and then look for happiness in the relationship or the institute called marriage. To be happy and contented is a far bigger subject and that which is more important is, finding yourself. It may also happen that your marriage is unhappy because you are not giving the right attention it requires. Probably your priority is your job or someone else in your family, your kids or even your friends. With all those priorities you sideline your partner or vice versa get sidelined. This needs a little introspection, a talk with self. We have to stop and ask ourselves, “What’s going on buddy!!”
Finding happiness in marriage is actually lame. It is not a 30 seconds joyride to find thrill or an act to get ecstatic. Marriage is a journey, just like “life“. It has its own ups and downs. It has its own charms as well as its lows.
Having sailed in this boat and dodging enough, I believe marriage is a very unique institution. We first need to believe in it, be committed, get ready to put in time and then try to work it out.
We just need to be, we need to coexist, we need to live with the differences, we need to understand that no two individuals can be similar. We also need to understand, that no two individuals can have the same mood at all the times. We need to strike a cord and find some matching plains when around, all other times be in whichever mood you like to be.
Let’s take the most common example among couples :). It usually happens that one feels the need of colder temperature than the other who usually claims the AC remote. We fight and blame and get totally upset with each other. It kind of happens in many other situations like favorite channels, switching off the light at night, opening the door when bell rings and the story goes on….A simple gesture of handing over a blanket or a shrug or a warm hug can serve the purpose and rather make it an opportunity to show affection, rather than long discussions or accusations of being insensitive or not caring bla bla bla…Think and find your own solutions to your problems and believe me its worth every minute of your time for a loving and peaceful life.
So the crux lies in finding a middle path, always keeping a little space of your own and respecting your partner’s. Life is beautiful and so can be partnership. Also partners are not responsible for our happiness but can participate in sharing it.
Happy Partnership oops marriage to all!!!
