10-10-2016
Divorce does not happen between a good and a bad person as it is generally perceived, it rather happens between two incompatible people, otherwise compatible with the entire world. I wish our society can understand this and not try to stereotype people based on their marital status.
‘Moving on’ after your intended divorce is as important as flushing after relieving yourself in the commode. One cannot keep blaming his/her spouse for ruining his/her life. Actually, it’s about saving two souls from the daily bickering and belittling each other due to incompatibility. Intelligent and practical people make a choice between living in chosen hell or moving out of it.
In a society like ours, moving on, being happy and being socially active after/during divorce are termed as loose character and adultery. Sympathies move to the one who sulks longer after separation. It affects the lives of the divorced people to the point that landlords want the house to be vacated as they are uncomfortable lending to a single mother. Some employers don’t want the person to continue job due to this status change. Friends cut the cords as they feel social pressure.
Some men do not accept this separation and their love transforms into complete hatred for their spouse. They even threaten their wives and stoop to the point of publicly defaming and scaring them. A friend of mine initiated divorce and her husband got so enraged that one night he came and broke all glasses and windows of her house in the midnight.
On the other hand, some women do not agree to divorce and free the man from a relation that is only causing them both agony. If they do, they expect huge alimony, howsoever well-settled and independent they are.
I wish we, as a society become more tolerant to the fact that two people can be amazing as humans, yet not compatible. We should give them a chance to correct their situation. Divorce is as important as marriage. It can offer as much happiness to two people as a marriage can. Lets give divorce an honourable place in society.
Let’s give divorce a chance.
